If you’re looking to have a threesome then this article will help you out. I’m covering the hardest part of making this whole thing happen, the invitation. By the time you finish reading this article, you should have a grasp on things and totally understand what you need to do to secure a threesome with you and two other people.
It’s become pretty clear in modern times that couples are becoming increasingly interested in bringing a third person into their bedroom activities, something that people commonly refer to as “opening up” their married lives. Without a doubt, these married couples have positive motivations for engaging in this behavior, as modern science has suggested that as humans, we’re “always looking” to engage with multiple partners.
Professionals would tell us that this urge to be with multiple partners is completely natural (although some data suggested that men have a larger propensity for “wandering”). And as a male, I can certainly confirm that this tends to be a fantasy for us at some time in our lives.
That being said, women can just as readily get excited by the prospect of a new lover in the bedroom, or perhaps two or three! The reasons behind this can vary immensely, with some people simply just being excited by watching their partner with someone else.
And these types of behaviors aren’t uncommon when you think about the sheer number of times a friend has mentioned “experimenting” in college. It’s a typical human instinct, wanting to explore your sexuality, and this is something that would naturally follow individuals into their marriages.
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So, you’re in a successful and happy marriage, but you and your partner have decided to spice it up a little. Where do you go from here?
Full Comfort & Disclosure
Before a couple can even get started in the world of polyamory, it’s vital that they maintain open and honest lines of communication. It makes complete sense to want to get down to the real motivations behind your partner’s interest in bringing someone new into the bedroom, as you can avoid any unwanted emotional “pitfalls” later on.
Communication is also important with the potential third individual you’re inviting into your lives. It’s smart to remember that these people also have their own set of emotions, expectations, and tastes. The clearer you are with them from the start, the better the situation will be.
If you and your partner can navigate this all-important component of bringing a third party into your bedroom, you may find that it brings you and your partner closer together than you had ever thought possible.
In this same vein, there are some ground rules that couples should stick to if they’ve mutually decided that it’s time to “open things up.”
1) Forget About Getting Jealous
If you are focused on being able to have an open (and honest) marriage, you’ll have to open up every facet of your feelings to your partner, especially regarding your romantic feelings.
Picture how you would feel if your partner asked you to just blindly follow your wants, instead of having a series of conversations about it. Without a thoughtful and planned approach, tensions can sometimes run high regarding an open relationship.
Jealousy can be extremely toxic in everyday “vanilla” relationships, so navigating these waters can be even trickier with multiple partners. At the end of the day, everyone concerned needs to feel secure and comfortable with the new interactions that come along with threesomes and open relationships, so keeping yourself honest about where you’re at emotionally, while also making an effort to communicate with your partner (or partners) is the first key to making the whole thing work. You wouldn’t want to inadvertently get stuck between two jealous partners, both of whom feel possessive over you.
2) Don’t Forget About Having A Good Time
For quite a few married couples, approaching the subject of a threesome can elicit feelings of infidelity, even if both parties are into the idea. Often, couples will wonder if engaging in a threesome will mean that they’re no longer faithful to each other.
if you’ve stayed open and honest with each other about this whole process, but are still getting bothered by these intrusive thoughts, it helps to remember what this is all about: fun.
Inviting another partner into the bedroom is supposed to be a pleasurable and enjoyable experience. In essence, you and your spouse are looking to bring a sense of fun and excitement into your physical relationship. You’re almost throwing yourselves a celebratory party regarding your shared sexuality. Remember, threesomes and open marriages are about embracing your true selves while having a blast in the process.
3) Try To Improve Yourself
A wonderful “bonus” of sharing you & your partner’s sex lives with others is that you may learn some new tricks. Perhaps there’s a move that your partner has always yearned for, but you never knew how to do it (or even that they wanted it). Sometimes your new sexual partner can inadvertently unlock these doors, opening up a brand new world regarding pleasuring your partner.
Marriages can often fall into a sense of monotony and routine, & taking your sex lives up a notch or two with an additional partner is a great way to combat this pitfall. This leads to my final point.
4) Reigniting Your Spark
Even for couples who don’t feel trapped by the mundane day-to-day grind a marriage can sometimes create, there’s still the decent chance that you’ll sometimes get bored with your partner. Seeing the same person every day can naturally have this effect, even if you think the world of your spouse.
Seeing your partner engage with anymore man or woman can sometimes completely change the light that you see them in. Many articles regarding the effects of threesomes on couples have stated this very fact, with both husbands and wives noticing an increased “wanting” for their significant other after seeing them in a new way.
A marriage is a lot like a home, in that you may occasionally want to redecorate or remodel.
Bringing changes into a committed partnership can be scary, and that goes double if it’s centered around your sexual life. But the evidence seems to continue to point towards several positive effects if you can stay honest about what each-other want.
if you both make sure to communicate often and keep each other’s well-being a priority, then a threesome may just be a perfect thing to bring some “home improvements” to your relationship.