Frankie Moretti, Author at TheNutJob.com

May 5, 2019 by Frankie Moretti Leave a Comment

Is It Something More Than A Typical Hookup?

Our modern-day hookup culture has come into being primarily thanks to how sexualized we are nowadays. The excitement we feel when we engage in late night romantic adventures allows us to engage in a lot of pleasures that most of us would only dream about. But hooking up also allows us to embrace our innermost wants without feeling judged or shamed for embracing the sides of physical attraction that are a bit off of the beaten path.

Nowadays, folks that embrace this sort of casual lifestyle are referred to as “sociosexually unrestricted” individuals. This movement contains people from just about every subculture and group out there, meaning that there’s a place for everything, and everything has its place, sexually speaking. Folks who grew up in the 60s can’t help but find some parallels between the rockin’ days of their time, and the modern sexual revolutions were in the midst of today.
Hopefully, this time around we’ll learn a bit more about what drives these urges in ourselves, and what makes us regularly seek out deep love and affection.

Signs That It’s Becoming More Than A Hookup (What To Look For)

Sex tends to be profoundly intimate for a lot of people, which is why it isn’t always that surprising to find out that your casual hookup may be getting some bonafide feels for you. As much as we’d like to kid ourselves, the truth is that the lines between lust and love can often get blurry, especially if you find a strong connection with your partner.

But, even though it’s obvious to a lot of us how and why this can start to happen, some of us remain blissfully unaware of the signs that show us this is happening. Below, I’ve outlined some behaviors and situations to pay attention to if you think your fling is starting to think you’re the “real thing.”

You Talk All The Time, About Everything

One of the first and most fundamental rules, when you’re hooking up with someone on the regular, is to leave before the morning can start. Some people think you should even go so far as to leave the same night, to avoid having the kind of interactions reserved for couples.

This can be a tricky situation to navigate, especially if you find yourself being the one who tries to linger a little while longer in the morning. This can lead to some serious self-doubt and confusion, which is why it’s wise to take a step back and consider the situation. Are you finding that your conversations naturally last longer and longer? Has the other person been guilty of hanging around more often than you’d expect?

These are healthy questions to ask yourself to avoid heartache. It’s entirely possible that part of the reason you’re feeling “real feelings” for them is that they’re sending the same vibes at you.

You Are Genuinely Concerned With Each-Other’s Lives

There’s a huge difference between showing a respectful level of interest in your hookup’s day-to-day events and having a legitimate investment in their lives and feelings.

A major sign of this is the sudden outpourings of emotional topics. Perhaps your casual hookup has just argued with her mother and decides that your the right person talk it over with. Or maybe you’ve just suddenly gotten into a car wreck, and find yourself pulling up their number to let them know what’s happened.

These aren’t the types of situations that get talked about when all you’re doing is sleeping with someone, and it’s a clear indicator that you care about each other.

Sometimes, You Don’t Even Sleep Together

This particular sign is about as obvious as it gets, and yet there are still people out there who don’t put the pieces together.

If you’re spending time with your casual fling doing things like having lunch, going to the movies, or having drinks, you should know that you’re going on dates, at least by the traditional definition.

Spending time interacting with someone socially that you also share a physical relationship with is dangerously close to dating, save for a few perceived responsibilities. Keep this in mind if you guys are having coffee a little too often.

You Are Really Into Each Other

This is slightly related to the last point but definitely takes the idea a step further. Showing nurturing behavior to a person that you’re sleeping with exposes a level of intimacy and feelings that go well beyond the physical, and will almost universally create a foundation of emotional interactions for you both to pull from.

When these signs start to show themselves, it’s time to make up your mind as to where your heart lies.

You Spend A Majority Of Your Time Together

A hookup is, by the textbook definition, casual and sporadic. That means that you’re going to be seeing your casual partner every now and again, without ever putting too fine of a point on it. This tends to be part of why keeping things casual is so enticing for people, as it doesn’t place substantial demands on their time. For others, it can also be fairly intimidating to be in a situation that for all intents and purposes will be “forever.”

The time spent together with a hookup is really the last dividing line between a casual encounter and a partner that you’re seriously dating. Investing more than a few hours of time into communications and interactions with your fling means that well…it’s not a fling anymore.

At The End Of The Day

The bottom line here is communication. Being candid and open about your intentions is crucial, not just to your partner’s well being, but also your own.

Human biology and sexual chemistry can be very, very confusing. Making sense of all the hormones and emotions being tossed around is never easy, but it’s smart to always keep on the lookout for these signs. It just may save you from a bit of heartache.

May 5, 2019 by Frankie Moretti Leave a Comment

Tinder Super Likes Notification – What Is It?

The mobile app Tinder tends to be a fantastic way for individuals to meet locally for dating and short-term enjoyment. They’ve also expanded their offerings more recently to include Plus & Gold services, both of which allow you to meet people long distance, as well as locally.

Tinder Super Likes (The Details)

As an app, Tinder has been steadily gaining popularity in the dating markets for years, and as it grows the buzz around it only intensifies. For a lot of folks, the transformation of the modern dating scene into something almost completely digital was almost unimaginable only ten or fifteen years ago. If you’re this sort of person, you should most definitely check out the online guides available on using the app as well as you can.

When you’re familiar with how to use Tinder, it’s a wonderful experience. The app allows you to sit in the comfort of your own home and browse for matches, as opposed to going to your local bar and trying to pick someone up. Tinder was the first to popularize the “swipe” that has become fairly ubiquitous within mobile dating apps. This works pretty simply, swiping your finger across the screen in either direction to indicate whether you’re interested in someone or not. If you’ve been selected by the individual you swipe right for, you’ll be matched and can start chatting immediately.

So, this is all pretty fun & functional, but what happens when swiping just becomes a little too commonplace? Well, remember when I mentioned the Plus and Gold memberships briefly above? This is where those added features become valuable, as they can really spice up your base level Tinder experience. Below, I’m going to cover a specific bonus feature offered by Tinder, called the “Super Like.”

So, What The Heck Is A Super Like?

So, boiled down to the simplest explanation, a super like is basically an extra signal to the other person that you’re very, very interested in them. Here’s how it works; Normally, when you swipe right on an individual, they won’t be notified unless they’ve swiped right on you as well. But when you make the extra step to super like a person, they’ll be notified immediately that you’ve… give them a wave, so to speak.

Tinder first released this feature in 2015, and it almost immediately created a buzz within the community. It definitely gives individuals a fighting chance to match with individuals that normally would pass a lot of people over due to the sheer number of matches they receive.

So, how do you super like someone? It’s actually pretty easy. Typically when you’re using the app (as well as other apps) you have to swipe either left or right, however when you find someone worth a super like, you’ll have to swipe upwards. There’s also a star icon sandwiched between the like and dislike buttons at the bottom of the screen which will perform the same action as a swipe upwards.

Is A Super Like The Right Move?

Sometimes it can be hard to decide whether or not to use a super like because different people perceive them in different ways. A person might get really excited that an individual is so over the top interested in them. But for every one of these kinds of folks, there are others who will wonder why you’re so needy that you needed to use a special feature to try and grab their attention. These sorts of thoughts on their side of the situation can sometimes even bleed over into the conversations that occur once you’ve met.

There’s also a third contingent of people that just think the whole super like function is a complete waste of time, in that it nullifies the matching function that the app was initially designed to have.

While all of these perspectives have their merits, at the end of the day just follow your gut and do what feels right at the moment. Or, if you’re the third type of individuals here…just don’t use the feature!

Checking Out Your Super Likes

So, the first step to being able to see your super likes is by having your Tinder notifications set to “On,” after which you’ll be alerted to any super likes. Keep in mind that if you’ve only got a free Tinder profile (as opposed to the Gold or Plus profiles), you won’t be able to see who it was that super liked you until the two of you actually match. Some people actually prefer the basic, free profile as they enjoy the excitement that surrounds a super like without a face to go along with it.

If you’re a Plus or Gold member, you can tap on the initial super like notification from your phone to get you into the app. From there, you’ll swipe through a few standard profile cards before you come across a card outlined in blue. This will be the signal that you’re looking at your “super like” admirer. You’ll also notice a blue star icon displayed on their profile.

If you’re like a lot of other people, you don’t like to be bothered by phone notifications, which is why you may have your Tinder alerts turned off. This could be concerning for you, as you might be thinking, “What if I miss when an individual decides to Super Like my profile? Am I just out of luck?”

The answer is, not in the slightest! The only difference here is that you may have to swipe through a few additional profile cards before landing on your super like, as they’ll have been “shuffled” back into the “deck.”

Either way, you’ll be able to check out your super like with just a few swipes. You’ll also be able to see all of the super likes that you’ve matched with by looking at your list of total matches. Here, they’ll also be outlined in blue and have a blue star icon.

What I Think

The Tinder Super Like can be a powerful tool to help you find that perfect match, as long as you use it wisely. Individuals are only given a single Super Like per day, so you’ll want to be pretty sure that the person you’re looking at is worth the risk.

My advice? Download the app, upgrade your membership, and jump into one of the single biggest dating pools of the decade. If you’re into more risque stuff, then you’ll want to give this site here a shot instead.

April 30, 2019 by Frankie Moretti 3 Comments

How To Meet Your Rich Sugar Momma

If you’re a young guy that likes women who are still seeking some fun, yet they might be old or older, and they got some money, then it’s a sugar momma that you need! Seriously, if you’re a man looking for a well-off woman to take care of things for you, trust me when I say that you’re not alone!

I’ve been searching for my official millionaire momma for years or at least the one I want to finally settle down with, lol.

For men who are less-than-rich, meeting a financial powerhouse who can satisfy your sexual urges (and bills as well) can absolutely change your life for the better. You’ll be able to do things like fly to exotic locations & drive fast cars, all while simultaneously have a casual sex partner to live out your fantasies with. And don’t forget, it’s all being given to you by a hot, wealthy woman who loves nothing more than taking care of you!

How To Find The Perfect Sugar Momma

Even though the sugar momma trend has grown a lot over the past few years, it can still be pretty tricky finding a woman to take care of you if you haven’t got an idea of where to look. Another challenge for the less-familiar is keeping a sugar momma around once you’ve “gotten” them in the first place. If you think she’s going to want to give you all of this sex and wealth without asking for anything in return, you are sadly mistaken. Why even start a relationship like this if you aren’t concerned with keeping them in your lives?

This Is The Year Of The Sugar Momma

In the modern era, women in the United States are experiencing a series of revolutions in the professional, political, and social spheres. Because of these growing socio-political changes, there’s a newfound sense of freedom that goes along with newfound wealth & political power.

Basically, you’ve got more rich, powerful women realizing that they can call the shots in their romantic lives. And (no surprise here), when an older woman realizes that she can have whatever she wants, she does what a lot of older men & women would do: find a hot young stud.

Official Definition

Before going any further, we should probably start with outlining what a sugar momma is. Often these women can be mistaken for cougars, but the truth is that these two things are entirely different. A sugar momma is looking to trade financial support for sex and companionship.

Usually, these women are going to go for significantly younger men, which tends to be why they’re lumped into the cougar category. But the truth is that cougars and sugar mommas are alike only in that they tend to be older women going after younger men.

A great way to tell if you’re dating a sugar momma is to find out exactly how established they are in their careers. Often times, sugar mommas hold real positions of power in their place of work, and getting an inside look into these types of situations can be a great identifier.

Places To Meet

So, if you’re on the lookout for a sugar momma of your own, there are few great places you can hang around in and try to pick them up. I’m going to kick things off by saying that there are a few cities that seem to house more of these rich older ladies than others.

Let me go ahead and just suggest that you spend time in a few places like South Florida, San Diego, New York City (my city), and Chicago. You’ll meet tons of rich women if you reside in any of those areas. Now, these places tend to be where wealthy older women like to hang out:

Casinos – It’s not much of a secret that older women with money to burn like to do it these types of establishments. Grab a cup of quarters, and find the women with the best-looking business suit.
Auctions – Another great way for wealthy folks to spend their money is at charity auctions. Keep your eyes peeled for the high female bidders, and try to strike up a conversation.
Boat & Yacht Clubs – Many semi-retired sugar mommas enjoy the boat life, so why not get out on the waves with them? Maybe throw on a captain’s hat to really impress them!
Jewelers / High-End Malls – This last one should be a no brainer. You don’t need the woman to be a sugar momma to want to spend her money on jewelry, but chances are, once they’ve gotten a taste of the sweet life, they’ll want the perks that come with it (namely an energetic young buck)!

Places On The World Wide Web

If you’re not completely comfortable finding a sugar momma in real life, you can also try one of the many websites devotes to connecting older women & younger men. What I personally like to do is sign up for multiple sites at once, to try and have as many chances as possible of finding a new connection. A great part of looking on these types of sites is that you don’t have to be concerned about mixed signals, as these women know exactly what they’re looking for.

Get ‘Em & Keep ‘Em

This may potentially be the hardest part of being the male partner to a sugar momma: keeping her. These women are looking for a strange blend of youthfulness and maturity, which can sometimes be a hard middle ground to hit. She’s looking for a man who makes her feel young & carefree, but she also doesn’t want someone who’s going to leave a mess & the kitchen or act a fool out at the clubs.

The key here is knowing when to shut your mouth and sit down. Older women love it when they’re younger beau has the wherewithal to handle social situations & settings correctly. If you aren’t sure about something, better to take a moment away and Google whatever etiquette questions you might have. Your brand new sugar momma doesn’t need to know that her new man is, well, new.

What To Remember

If you really want to find land yourself in a situation like the one I’ve described above, remember that you’re going to have to put down things like video games and pick up things like VIP bottle service and late nights out clubbing. A woman in her early fifties probably isn’t going to want to stay up until 3 am watching you play Call of Duty.

Also, as I said above, chances are if you meet up with a woman over forty, they’re going to be reveling in (often) the peak levels of their sexuality. Besides keeping your attitude in check, you’re going to have to accept that this is a physical relationship, first & foremost. If that’s a fact you’re comfortable with, you should have no problem settling into a situation like this.

What’s the alternative you ask? Well, I guess it’s having negative cash flow and hiring someone to have sex with you, something I don’t condone in the NY area.

Just make the right moves and you’ll be all set. Trust me on this one, give it a shot and see what happens.

April 30, 2019 by Frankie Moretti Leave a Comment

Thought Process of Women and Hooking Up (My Personal Opinion)

Did you know that a lot of women think about hooking up daily? Does that come as a shocker to you? If so, then I must say that you’re absolutely crazy. No, but seriously, women are just as hungry as men are today. In fact, I’ll go out on a limb and say that we’re almost all aware of what a hookup is, I’m sure.

It boils down to simply, a man and a woman, man and a man, woman and a woman, or some variation thereof get together and have some fun, sexually speaking. It can be as simple as a makeout session, or as insane as a group of six between the sheets for a night. Really, the term has a lot of so-called “wiggle room.”

But despite this general understanding, even Webster’s Dictionary is at a loss as to how to describe this common human behavior. The term tends to mean a lot of things to a lot of different people, and it’s possible even you’re confused by the term!

It tends to be true that most women have a hookup fantasy that they come into a casual situation with. They’ll absolutely have pictured how the date is going to go, and how your night together is going to play out. Sometimes the woman is picturing a series of near-romantic events; Other times, she’s a monster in the bedroom. For men, it can be difficult to know exactly what type of situation they’re heading into, so it’d be nice if they could get some warning about what to expect.

What A Hookup Means To Women (The Average Female)

During the average hookup encounter, things can move pretty quickly from the bar to the bedroom, so it can be easy to ruin things by being so overly concerned about concepts such as setting “the mood” that you end up talking way too much. That being said, it can be a huge benefit to put a few questions out there before you meet up, so you know both what you and she really expect from that evening’s events.

Sending The Right Message

While I hate to be so literal about it, this is absolutely the first and most crucial batch of steps to making sure your potential female partner knows what’s coming. Knowing the right types of thing to say can really enhance your encounter, so it’s wise to come into the situation prepared. Below, I’ve written out a few examples of statements that should work perfectly for something like this:

“Hey there. I know we’re just getting started, but I feel like there are a few personal preferences I have that I’d like to share before we really get into this.”

“So, what are some of your tastes, sexually speaking? Are there any particular moves or habits that you’re looking for in a partner?”

“I really like where things are going, and that’s why before we keep going, I’d like to find out what sort of kinks you might have?”

If she responds well to these introductory questions, embrace the moment and dig a little more deeply. The more you can come into a hookup situation with the right knowledge, the better the woman is going to find you to be.

Boundaries & Ground Rules

So, you’ve exchanged a bunch of texts, things are going well, and now the pair of you are toying with the idea of meeting up. What comes next?

No surprise here, it’s time for some more clear & honest communication! While you’ve hopefully at this point established a firm understanding of both what you & your partner want, you may not have covered the types of things you DON’T want. Perhaps you’re a fan of the rougher stuff, and she’s a gentle soul. Maybe she likes being tied up, and you’re just not comfortable with rope play.

In 2019, anyone can have a hidden list of fetishes that just don’t mesh with the person they’re seeing. For example, hitting dom sex clubs. Setting up some ground rules concerning what she does and does NOT like in the bedroom is important for several reasons, including the emotional well-being of both parties concerned.

During The Hookup

Hopefully, at this point, you’ve made time to meet up with your potential new partner. You’ve already set up ground rules, and you have a good idea of what she likes & doesn’t like. Now, you need to remember to have fun and relax. Meeting a new mate can be downright terrifying, so try to keep in mind that you and she are keeping things casual for a reason.

Self-Needs, Self Care

So, you’ve set the stage, you’ve sent the right signals, and you’ve successfully gotten yourself into a hookup situation. You’re having a great time, and things seem to be progressing just the way you’d like them to. So how do you maintain this new & preferred “status quo?” With a bit of regular self-maintenance, that’s how!

There are numerous ideas & techniques regarding self-care, but the main goal in any of these approaches is to continue enjoying the activities that brought you joy prior to meeting your partner.

Women tend to get a little frustrated by male dependence when they’re only looking for a fling, so keeping yourself occupied & independent is a great way to avoid falling into this trap. It also helps to keep your mind clear, which is important when trying to think about your situation objectively.

Knowing When To Leave

While plenty of women out there are perfectly happy to keep things casual, it’s important to keep an eye on the development of your partnership.

Knowing the signs that indicate when your hookup may be thinking about you a little too romantically can help you decide that it’s time to leave before things take a nasty turn. Emotions are a tricky thing, and when physical affection is thrown into the mix, you can lose control of the situation before you know it.

Putting It All Together

Really, this comes down to an optimistic attitude, and a little bit of caution. Usually, you can tell pretty quickly if the woman you’re interacting with is “down” with your personality, or if she’s just not going to be the best potential match for you.

Also, don’t be mistaken: women are making up their minds about you just as quickly as you are about them. Stay cool, calm, and collected, and remember that women are often looking for a good, safe bit of fun, just like you!

April 16, 2019 by Frankie Moretti Leave a Comment

eHarmony Login and Free Trial (Get Yours Today)

Nowadays, trying to find your perfect, end-all-be-all soulmate is almost old-fashioned. Gone are the days where we over-romanticize the perils and pitfalls of our dating lives. That’s why eHarmony is so great, as it brings with it a fantastic list of questions meant to let you know people a little better, before ever reaching out. There are a ton of dating apps on the market that charge its users a pretty hefty fee, which makes the whole process a little more difficult for some folks to get interested in using. eHarmony avoids all that by letting its users sign up for a completely free trial account, allowing you to save your dollars until you’re convinced that the full, paid site is a good bet. If you do decide to pay for the full version of eHarmony, there are a bunch of great features that get unlocked. However, even during your trial, you’ll be able to browse new user profiles, message a few people, and generally “get your feet wet.”

Getting A Trial eHarmony Account

eHarmony gives you just a total of three days to make up your mind about their site, so it’s important to use it a lot while you’re enjoying your trial. While not everyone is going to find this period of time to be optimal, in my opinion, it’s more than enough time to find out if this site is right for you. What I’d recommend is setting up your profile on a Friday afternoon, which will let you check the site out all weekend long, thus improving your chances of finding a match or date before time runs out, and you’re forced to crack open your wallet.

The point above is also important because of eHarmony’s specialized “Guided communication,” which is specifically designed to help you start conversations. If you’re going to try this software out, you might as well do it during some of their busiest days, right?

Throughout these seventy hours, if you make the call that this app just isn’t the right fit for your lifestyle, the cancellation process couldn’t be easier. Just take care to keep track of your signup and deadline times, as even an hour or two over the line will result in a month’s worth of charges.

My Best Tricks For Getting A Free Trial

Setting up your initial profile is probably going to take a few minutes, so don’t get discouraged if you feel like it’s taking too long to get started. You’re going to want to fill out and answer all the questions they throw at you, including payment information for the trial plan. Make sure you go through your profile set up before you hit the payment options, as it’ll give you a little extra time to browse profiles for free instead of spending the first few moments of your free trial setting up a member profile.

What Next?

Now that you’ve solidified your free trial, it’s time to start checking out profiles that have been suggested for you. Remember, eHarmony doesn’t suggest that you browse random profiles. Instead, they’ll provide you with their best ideas for your match based on the questions you’ve already answered. As you start to look around, you’ll probably notice that viewing images in your matched profiles isn’t possible during your trial, unless you couch up a few extra dollars.

Instead of this, I’ve found a few ways to (at least temporarily) use these added features for free.

1) Free Communication Weekends

So alerts for these promotional weekends can be found on the registration page of eHarmony. While they typically only happen once or twice a month, it’s wise to keep on the lookout for these deals. If you wait to sign up until a Free Communication Weekend, you’ll have from Friday through Sunday to use the full-featured eHarmony site, at no additional cost!

2) Promo Codes

The second option for people who really want to save their money while still checking out the eHarmony dating site is to find some sort of promotional code through a third-party site. These codes will typically be in the form of either a free month’s subscription or a percentage off of your first month’s membership fees. Either way, websites like this tend to release promo codes pretty often, so keep a lookout for these sorts of bargains!

If you’re looking for something more risque and forward, then you might want to check out these sites here. You can find promo codes and free offers for those as well.

What’s The Fine Print On This Trial?

So, as I half-mentioned above, you will be required to enter payment information while registering for your free trial. What I didn’t mention is that this payment info will be used to take a refundable payment of $40 from your account. This tends to be off-putting for some, as just forgetting to log in and cancel a few hours too late could cost you a hefty chunk of money for a product you’ve decided not to purchase.

My advice here is to make a simple reminder, either on your calendar or phone. If you’re mature enough to be looking for a significant other, you’re probably responsible enough to keep track of when to cancel.

The Bottom Line

I can think of a plethora of reasons to try out eHarmony, even if only for a few days. Honestly, the matching algorithm by itself is interesting to try out, even if it’s just to get your daily match notifications and see if eHarmony has a handle on what you like. The site even provides a free profile analysis that you’re can take with you if you decide to opt out of a full membership.

Keep in mind, eHarmony has a rigid structure that isn’t for everyone. The questionnaires are fixed, and users aren’t able to add “quirky” person facts that they may find relevant. The $40 charge upfront is a sticking point as well. There’s also the frustration of not being able to share certain personal details or messages before you’ve upgraded. However, even with these few negative points, I’d still recommend giving a free trial a shot – click here. You just may find that their app is perfect for you! If not, there are plenty of other apps out there to tinker with, trust me!