If you ask me, I think people who get married are nut jobs to the fullest extent. The most basic research on marriage will teach you that the divorce rate is at nearly fifty percent. What that number doesn’t account for is all the people who stay in marriages but are not truly happy.
When it comes to men, there are many of them who love their spouses dearly and do not want to get a divorce but are also extremely unhappy in their marriage. This may seem to be contradictory but it is actually a very common occurrence.
Why Are Most Men Unhappily Married? Find Out Now!
The most basic reason married men end up unhappy is that they didn’t fully grasp the idea of what marriage was before they jumped into it. Finding someone who you connect with on a physical and emotional level is an intense experience, and the power of love forces people into making decisions they don’t fully think about.
Your Life Will Change
Often, men underestimate the lifestyle change that comes along with marriage, and they expect that their previous lives will stay intact. Marriage requires a different level of time, energy, and financial commitment, and once these commitments are made, they are very difficult to undo without great consequence. A common theme amongst unhappily married men is feeling like they are trapped in their lives, and stuck in a routine in which they are unfulfilled.
Likewise, interpersonal dynamics often change once people get married. Men may feel like they are no longer appreciated in the same way, as the roles in the relationship may have changed after the marriage. Married men often feel like they lack control over their lives and schedules, and often have to concede things to their partner.
Resentment Often Exists
When they feel like these concessions aren’t appreciated, resentment begins to form and this compounds into other problems. Especially when children are added to the equation, men start to feel left out now that their partner has a new role as a mother and caregiver. They feel like they don’t get the same attention as before, and that their wife has become their mother; an authority figure who dictates what they can and cannot do.
Sex Does Change
The universal reason married men are unhappy is because the sexual dynamic in the relationship has changed after marriage. Married men often have no yearning for the pitfalls of single life and dating, and simply want the sexual interaction in the relationship to continue to evolve. Often, especially when children come into the fold, the sexual dynamic between partners quickly diminishes because of practical forces like time and fatigue.
The rigors of pregnancy and adult life may also result in transformations in the partner’s body that changes the level of attraction between the two partners. Men often feel like their wives have “let themselves go,” and no longer care about dressing sexy or being naughty now that they are deep into a marriage. The frequency of sexual interactions drops, and the spark is not the same as when they were first in love.
Conclusion
There are many reasons a man could be unhappy in a relationship, but they all often boil down to a lack of communication and understanding between the partners. Once this is established, it becomes clearer what the root cause of unhappiness is and can possibly be changed. If you’re willing to make a change, then great.
But if not, then get out now. Don’t make someone else suffer because you’re not happy. If both parties are not into it, then eventually things will die out and you’ll be divorced before you know it. Now, some folks choose to cheat on their partner versus flee the scene, but that’s your choice to make, not mine. Some folks don’t want to get a divorce, so they just do the unthinkable and hire an escort to fulfill their sexual needs and desires.
