Monthly Archives: November 2018
Monthly Archives: November 2018
There are some real positives for not getting hitched. Some people don’t see it, but I’ll tell you right now, I most certainly do! History has shown us that marriage has been and stands to remain mainly an economic and political tool not based purely on romance. Back in the day, middle and lower class people used marriage as a way to profit via a dowry, and upper-class people used marriage as a tool to form alliances and political dynasties. Read about the origin of marriage on Wikipedia right here.
Getting married and having children was one of the only ways people had to build businesses and accrue power for themselves. Because of these reasons, marriage has often been seen as an archaic tradition that has historically oppressed women and reinforced antiquated gender dynamics.
Fast forward to the present…
In the modern age, marriage is no longer seen as a necessary component to having children. Women in the workforce and men staying home to do childcare have put traditional dynamics to a screeching halt. The messiness of divorce has cautioned people from pursuing marriage in the first place. These days, there are actually many benefits to never getting married. Which is exactly why I’m sharing the main reasons why I will never be getting married. The benefits are far too great, especially if you’re a financial powerhouse like myself.
In circumstances like taxes, loans, and other societal benefits, society is still tilted towards those who get married. However, most people who never get married point to one major advantage: freedom of time and movement.
Monogamy forces people into a certain lifestyle that they often don’t realize they don’t want until they get into it. It has less to do with being able to have sexual partners and more to do with being able to be alone, spend time with yourself, and not be bound to any one relationship. Some people just want to have more freedom with sexual partners and that’s fine. In fact, that’s why they invented Ashley Madison and Instabang.
But marriages often force people to sacrifice other types of relationships so that you can maintain the marriage dynamic. Friendships and family connections often go to the wayside when you get married.
A benefit of never getting married is being able to give time to a wide range of relationships, and being able to pursue new ones without hurting someone else.
The financial implications of getting married are very serious. A wedding is incredibly expensive, and getting a living space that accommodates two or more people is often very pricey.
Having to adjust your living arrangements for your spouse may force you to move away from a city you love, or away from your family and friends. You may have to make work-related decisions to properly accommodate a wedded lifestyle and may be forced to take on loans you may not want to take.
One of the most basic benefits of never getting married is that you don’t have to get married to have a loving, monogamous relationship that results in children. Because the divorce rate is so high, marriages that end in divorce create very complicated financial dynamics, especially when there are children involved.
Society is more respectful to unions that are not actual legal marriages, and many people feel that a piece of paper shouldn’t define a relationship and the institution establishes expectations and burdens that are ultimately harmful long term. The decision is up to each individual, but never getting married gives you the time and energy to make decisions that help you have the most fulfilling life possible.
Look, unless you’re in dire need of settling down with someone for some gain or if you really love them with all your heart and cannot see yourself with anyone else, then get married. But not getting married is a far better option if you ask me!
Less work, fewer headaches, fewer heartbreaks, and more sex. That’s what you’ve got to look forward to if you’re never planning on getting married throughout this lifetime. Screw marriage, just bang! Get started by reading this page on free sites to join.
You’ve done all the early stage work of getting to know someone via the fling app or site, and piquing their interest and you’ve finally secured that first date. Few things are more nerve-wracking than a first date, because first impressions are everything. If you ruin this chance, you may not get another one. This is why you should avoid the typical lame Netflix and chill type first dates, and make sure you go out and do something that helps break the ice and showcase your personality.
That said, I’ve got some stellar first date ideas for you that will make this date one that just about everyone will remember. Trust me on that one!
Before you even get into what you’re doing, make sure you have the right mindset so that you are picking from the correct list of options. Is this a truly first-time deal where you’ve never spent a second with this person before? Or is this a situation in which you’ve already built a rapport and are trying to take things to the next level? Figuring this out will help dictate early on what type of date you should go on.
A general rule of thumb for a first date is doing something that is both affordable, casual and allows the two of you to have a conversation. Going to the movies on a first date is a bad idea because you’ll spend most of the time silent. Your first priority should be a venue in which you can do some face to face talking before you go out and experience something.
With these things in mind, one of the best first date ideas always starts with dinner. Try and go to a trendy spot that isn’t too fancy, but has a cool aesthetic and an exciting menu. There are plenty of dinner spots where the chef will put on a cool show, or they have a staple meal that’s both amazing to look at and eat. This will give you something to talk about, and the dinner will pace the early stage conversations.
Once you get that out of the way, one of the better choices is to do something that allows you to walk around and engage with your surroundings. A walk in a park is cool, but a walk through a museum is even better! Likewise, doing anything particularly scenic that involves water or a beautiful view, is often a great choice.
Another great idea which typically involves alcoholic drinks is also karaoke. It shows that you are loose and don’t take yourself too seriously, talking about taste in music is a great ice breaker, and it allows you to bond without having to talk so much. Likewise, any game themed date is a great idea. Hit an amusement park, check out some mini golf, or hit the arcade for some quick games.
If things are going well, you should pursue any ideas that involve creativity. There are lots of wine tastings that are paired with painting, pottery, and other artistic pursuits. Though it may be a bit pricier for a first date, you could also do something incredibly relaxing like hit a spa, take a breathtaking helicopter ride, or a smooth boat ride. All of these things are great ways to both break the ice and set the mood for hopefully many more dates to come!
Update: I recently had a friend pass away in a helicopter accident and I can no longer suggest that you take a helicopter ride unless the pilot is experienced and ready for all types of weather and flight issues.
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As one of the most highly sought after women around, many men fantasize about dating the stripper of their dreams. Trust me, there are more strip clubs in New York and New Jersey than I can even count. Needless to say, I’ve been to them all! If you ask me, there’s often nothing sexier than watching a powerful woman take over a room with her body.
Some of these exotic dancers are insanely talented and they mean business! If you’re planning on trying to date one, then you’ll want to read my article. I’ve covered all that you need to know and understand if you want a successful relationship with a stripper. Here are some pointers for you…
It’s a stripper’s job to get men to drool over them and fall in love at first sight, and because of this, most men don’t understand what they have to do to actually date a stripper. The reality is strippers are like most women: they want someone who is honest, understanding, and patient. If you’re dating a stripper, you have to have these qualities in spades.
Based on my personal experiences, they don’t trust men, in general, so they need that honesty and reassurance. Here are a few non-negotiable things you need to understand.
What you first must understand is that the first thing you need to do is respect their job. When you meet a stripper at a club, she’s currently at work. It’s her job to meet with all types of men throughout the night. So you’re best bet to get her attention is to pay for it.
Once she’s off stage, walk over and ask her how much for a private dance. The rate is usually per song, so what you’ll want to do is spend enough time to get both a dance and a conversation going. The longer you spend with her, the more likely you’ll have a chance to prove you’re worthy of seeing her outside of the club. Also, don’t assume that these girls are the same as those parading around Backpage or Listcrawler. They are not all escorts, especially those in the NYC area.
One of the common mistakes men make with strippers is telling them they shouldn’t work at the club. These women are working just like anyone else, and their lifestyle often affords them a level of freedom and flexibility that they enjoy. It could be demeaning to say that she is too good for the club or that you want her to quit.
Would you date someone who wanted you to quit your job as a prerequisite to a relationship? What most men fail to understand is that strippers are regular women. Dancing naked is a risqué job, but it is actually not that explicit when it comes to jobs that involve sex.
These girls are not always walking around scantily clad, and may not be the sexual freaks that you envision. If you’re able to navigate these specific pitfalls and get her actual number, this is a big step forward.
You have to understand that it’s possible that hundreds of men a month ask her for her number and proposition her for sex. What you want to do is establish that you respect her as a person and want to pursue a relationship that is more than just sexual.
Like any woman, the best way to date a stripper is to be honest and transparent about your intentions. Be respectful of her identity and don’t try and control her, and don’t place expectations on her just because of her job.
Since strippers are always around men with money, be mindful that you may have to maintain a certain lifestyle to interest her in the first place, and you may have to frequent the strip club more than once to get her attention. Overall, approach a stripper like you would any woman, but just have more sensitivity for what her workplace lifestyle entails.
Well, that’s all I’ve got to say about dating a stripper. I just might be one of the most exciting relationships that you’ve ever been in if you’re able to rope one in. However, be prepared for what I’ve mentioned or you’ll be in for it. Either that or it will not be long-lived. Don’t worry, there’s always those economical hookup sites that I’ve been recommending which will for sure get you laid.
Oh, I’ll wrap things up with this video of Floyd Mayweather making it rain on a bunch of strippers after a TKO fight night win!
Are you a food fiend like myself? How about a sex fan? Well, there are many foods that can help turn things up in the bedroom. They’re called – aphrodisiacs! Here’s what you need to know about these foods if you want to turn on that hottie you’ve been trying to hook up with.
All throughout history, food has been a central component of all kinds of sexual exploits. From the ancient Greeks and Egyptians to our modern day, there has been a litany of food staples that have always been synonymous with sex.
However, just because something looks or tastes sexual, doesn’t mean it’s a true boost to your drive and desire when it comes to the bedroom. Science has backed up many historical narratives about which foods are best to get you ready for the night, and you can enjoy these in a variety of ways and still get the kick you’re looking for!
One of the most, if not most, a classic of all aphrodisiac foods, are oysters. These slimy morsels may seem like an odd choice, but they are in fact backed up by science and are useful to both genders.
Featuring a high amount of amino acids and proven to boost your dopamine levels, oysters are a good opening salvo to a meal that will have you hitting the sheets before dessert is served. Enjoyed a variety of ways, most commonly with lemon and hot sauce, oysters are a quick and natural boost that everyone could find useful in the bedroom. If you want to kill two birds with one stone, then you might consider taking some vodka oyster shooters.
A not as popular, but also effective food aphrodisiac, is watermelon. Known as a summertime staple, these fruits are available year round and actually have an excellent effect on expanding blood vessels. For guys out there, slices of fresh watermelon can help get the blood flowing and produce stronger and longer lasting erections.
What’s great about this juicy fruit is that it is mainly water, which will keep you hydrated and focused for a long night of lovemaking! It is also sweet and sensual, and with a crack of salt and pepper, can prove a very tasty bite to help lead you into lovemaking.
This one’s going to sound even stranger, but many people use asparagus as an aphrodisiac. The long green stems are suggestive enough, but they are actually high in vitamin B, which helps increase blood flow and alertness.
This is a great choice because it can be seamlessly added to most dinner plates, and does not take a lot to make taste delicious. A bit of olive oil, salt, and pepper after some light roasting will provide an excellent crunch that gets both men and women in the mood! However, don’t eat too much or your piss will smell rotten as it gets.
Two other excellent pairing foods that will help spark some chemistry are avocados and chili peppers – the hotter the pepper the better! Avocados are ubiquitous and can be added to all sorts of meals, and require little to no preparation. The high vitamin E content makes it an excellent choice to maintain energy levels and boost libido.
The spicy kick of chili peppers ignites endorphins that promote a healthy sex drive, and it can also be added to all sorts of meals without taking over the entire dish. The increase in heart rate is vital in getting your sexual drive into gear.
Lastly, one of the most classic aphrodisiacs is chocolate! Sweet, romantic, and sticky when hot, the smell and texture of the chocolate is sure to get anyone in the mood. With a luscious chocolate-based dessert, you’ll find yourself hopping into bed in no time!
Well, at this point, my advice would be to either hit a nice restaurant that serves these foods with your date or make them at home. You’ve got options, just make sure that they include the foods mentioned above.
Now if you’re eating foods that make you horny, while not combine that effort with some hottie from the Uberhorny app. Chances are she’s already horny AF, to begin with!
No sense in beating around the bush here. I’ll just come right out and say that I’m a pretty heavy drinker and seeing as though I’m a complete nut, you can only imagine how many drinks I toss back weekly. I can slug down Manhattans and Martinis with the best of them. One thing I’ve come to learn is that women love to drink tasty alcoholic drinks.
Fun Fact: Tasty drinks will help you have better dating experiences.
Alcohol has always been a classic go to when you’re trying to get your sexy lady or some random chick you meet online in the mood, but few people know that specific drinks are truly great as an aphrodisiac. The trick to enjoying a sexy drink that will get all the right juices flowing is a combination of ingredients, taste, and look. Not all of these cocktails have classic aphrodisiac components within them, but their name and look are sure to get the sparks flying.
And let’s face it, a few filthy blue cheese martinis will make any girl want to thumb a ride to pound town.
Here’s what I personally consider a great selection of drinks. They’re all great options for those looking to turn women on. As for the most popular types of drinks, according to an article covering an overview of alcoholic beverages, vodka, gin, rum, whiskey, and tequila are the most popular spirits purchased and consumed today. There’s a reason for that, obviously! You’ll find that many of the drinks below contain these spirits, so let’s toast to indulging in these cocktails and hooking up!
A perfect opener for the night, a sparkling ginger daisy is what you should have ready when you’re trying to break the ice. It’s delicious, refreshing, and the bubbly component of the Prosecco is sure to lighten the atmosphere and get your date feeling comfortable. As a gin based drink, it leaves a dry and cool feeling on the tongue, which helps get you to the next cocktail of the night.
For those who don’t want to go the gin route, a Brandy Alexander is an excellent choice. Featuring the classic aphrodisiac, chocolate, this creamy drink is both sweet and savory. The brandy provides an instant buzz that helps loosen inhibitions and opens up the mind.
Another great chocolate-based choice is a Cupid’s Kiss. It has an awesome name, features both chocolate and cherries, which are known aphrodisiacs, and is actually quite easy to make. Using a little cocoa powder to rim the glass provides an elegant and romantic presentation, and the smell of dark chocolate is unmatched in getting the ladies heart to flutter. If you’re date isn’t much of a hard liquor type, these are great options. It’s basically dessert, before you have you real dessert in the bedroom!
If you’re trying to take your relationship to the next level, a great call at the bar is to order up the Secret Crush. The name is a dead giveaway of your feelings, and the flavor profile of this drink is out of this world.
Though not containing classic aphrodisiac ingredients, this drink is bubbly and features luster dust, which provides an exotic and memorable presentation. It’s sweet and smooth, and is a perfect way to let your special lady know that you have feelings and that you want to explore further from an intimate perspective.
For those who want to avoid the barkeep atmosphere and impress your date when you’re back alone, the mayday martini should be your go to drink. It’s simple to make, is vodka based like many popular drinks with women, and features cinnamon and strawberry, which are legendary aphrodisiacs. This drink isn’t too sweet but still provides a nice kick, and it’s the perfect nightcap before you guys hit the bedroom.
If you want to get right to it, try out the classic oyster shooter. Oysters are historically one of the most effective aphrodisiacs known to man, and the presentation and ingenuity of this drink is sure to get that fire burning!
It’s simple to make, requiring only vodka, lemon juice, and Tabasco sauce, and the combination kicks in multiple endorphins that are known to promote sexual activity. All of these options are tried and true sexual elixirs that are ideal for setting the mood for all types of sex!
Okay, my buddy Larry let me in on a little secret. He’s a chiropractor living in New York City. I refer to him as Dr. Larry and he’s got a secret weapon that he pulls out during every casual meet up. It’s called Don Julio – read about all the different tequilas they make before trying them! Chilled shots of Don Julio Real make life better and they’re bound to help you hook up.
Well, that’s all you need to know, so either head to the liquor store or bar and start ordering these drinks for women. They’ll be super excited, I can guarantee it and you are bound to get laid as a result of doing so. Need to find a way to meet these women? No problem, head on over to the homepage, but before you do that please check out the article on dating girls from Backpage. That’ll stop you in your tracks, I’m positive on that.
Whether you’re living in New York City such as myself or if you’re living in the Midwest, you need to know what women want if you want to date successfully – be it casual or something more serious. I’ve done all I can to help you understand what women want today. If you’re smart enough to read this top to bottom, then you might actually get lucky…
Building and maintaining relationships is often the hardest thing anyone ever has to do in life. Finding someone you are compatible with, who you are able to grow and evolve with, is no easy task. The rules of love and lust are complicated, and men often are on the outside looking in when it comes to understanding how to navigate relationship dynamics (short term and long term).
There is no sure fire way to appeal to any one person, as everyone is different, but there are some basic relationship tenets that men should employ when trying to pursue the woman of their dreams.
Quite frankly, I don’t care if you think it’s the person of your dreams or just some quick fling. The same rules apply if you want to WIN. Here are a few of the most important things to keep in mind…
This covers everything important that you need to know, nuff said. I’ll kick things off with perhaps the most important thing…
No matter your approach, the first thing men should keep in mind when trying to discover what a women may want, is that respect and communication is key. Men are often clueless when it comes to the opposite sex because they don’t approach situations with basic respect.
This is why I’m constantly telling you to not just send random Snapchat messages or explicit DMs. You’ve got to think like a female to get one.
A woman wants a man that respects her as an individual before anything. Once a woman understands that you will maintain a certain level of respect, then you can move on to communicating in a more open fashion. If you want to know what a women wants, you should just ask her!
This initial stepping stone will help clear up many issues up front.
Likewise, women want a man that is honest and transparent in their communication. Anyone can be a smooth talker, I’m a perfect example of that to be honest, but when it comes down to it, a woman wants to know she can trust what she is being told.
Establishing this dynamic early on is crucial to building a more meaningful progressive relationship. Now, this easily applies to casual dating because you need to be able to speak with the person via chat, iMessage, video, whatever and you need to be honest about your intentions e.g. just hooking up.
Sounds cheesy right? I agree, but I’ve gotta say, being a New Yorker, I’ve got to communicate effectively or I’ll get no where. The dating pool is fierce and without communicating, you’re not going to be able to establish any type of of chemistry, PERIOD.
As you navigate the early stages of honest communication, then you can begin to discover if there is actual romantic chemistry. Men don’t always understand that a woman may like talking to you and being around you, while also not feeling any true romantic chemistry.
Generally speaking, women want a man that can make her laugh, can be a good listener, and is attentive in learning and understanding her interests. You can build chemistry over time even if the sparks are not there from the get go. Play the game right and you’ll succeed.
Have you heard of Seeking.com formally known as SeekingArrangement.com? This is a dating site that was created to connect men who have money with girls willing to exchange their time for money. They’ve put a monetary value on their time and many people do this not knowing that they’ve done so.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, even if a woman is immediately overcome with sexual chemistry with you, women find financial stability and emotional vulnerability to be very sexy. Financial stability shows that you are responsible, ambitious, and hardworking. Women love these traits in a man because they are good indicators for long-term success.
Women also love men who are not afraid to show their emotions. Show her that you aren’t afraid to sing a love song or tear up during an emotional movie. Sure, some will think you’re a loser, but if it’s only a fling or casual date, then who cares what they think. Bang them, then move on!
Ultimately, what women want in a man is someone who they can trust their emotions with, and as long as you move with transparency and honesty, you will find that you can build strong relationship dynamics with a woman who may not even appear to be your match on the surface.
After all, true love can’t always be explained and even if you’re not on the hunt for love, you should still attempt to apply the things that I’ve covered. I promise, doing so WILL HELP you hook up with more people on any dating network.
If you’re ready to join one, then my advice would be to try this one here and if you’re not quite ready, then do yourself a favor, read the rest of my articles. You’ll find the most recent on the homepage. Good luck and have at it!
With the U.S. Senate passing an online sex trafficking bill, SESTA/FOSTA, in April of 2018, many free online methods for hooking up are being taken down. Because of this, many people are struggling to find an alternative to sites like Backpage. With this loss in the casual dating world, loads of similar and just as shady sites are popping up in hopes of drawing in the loneliest and horniest men that are out there.
Backpage was formed in 2004 by Village Voice or New Times Media. While it didn’t originally set out to be an escort site, it quickly became just that, and the Federal government seized it in mid-April of 2018 as well as slapping federal charges on Backpage co-founder Michael Lacey.
So, what are the other sites that are alternatives to Backpage, you ask. There are many, but for this article, I focused on the top 10 that people have been turning to in their quest for an NSA encounter. However, I wouldn’t recommend any of these sites either. They have either already been hit by SESTA or will be soon. And believe me, you don’t want your name linked in any way to a website dealing in prostitution, especially with sex trafficking being such a huge issue.
I’ll just kick things off here…
One of the most popular free sites out there is Craigslist. You will see that their official personals section has been shut down, but some tricky users have found a way to get around the new rules. I have seen personals-type of ads posted in the Volunteer, Gigs, and Wanted sections. There are way fewer of these types of ads, so honestly, the time of Craigslist for casual dating is pretty much completely done.
A new one for me was Geebo. This site began in 2000 and is very similar to Craigslist in that you can buy and sell various goods as well as hire people for various services, find a job, find a roommate, or even a place to stay. What you can no longer do is hire an escort or get one of those special massages that men tend to like. In 2010 Geebo was busted for allowing ads involving drugs and prostitution, so it is best to avoid trying to find any ads that may have skirted the rules.
USFreeAds is another classified ad site and was actually around prior to Backpage. While this site is super easy to use, you want to avoid it. Take a quick peek at their personals section and you’ll see ads promoting prostitution or other pay-for-sex schemes. Remember, this is illegal activity we’re talking about here.
Classified Ads is a site that is even easier to use than USFreeAds or Craigslist. It does have a personals section and there does seem to be some legitimate ads for dating there, even for casual dating. Just know this, there is no verification process whatsoever. Anybody can post, anyone can be behind an ad and this includes cops looking for “John’s”. If you decide to respond to any ads on Classified Ads, be very careful.
Now For Hiring Escorts
My next group of sites are all basically websites that are known to be strictly for hiring escorts. There is no hidden here, everything is just out in the open, which is really bad if you’re looking to avoid being connected to illegal activity. This is because of the recent legislation and the fact that it was obvious what these sites were for, most of them have been shut down in the U.S. Now, I’ve mentioned why I hate these New York escorts here if you need more reasoning to stay away.
The Erotic Review was very much like Backpage and recently closed up shop because of legal issues. If it should come back again, avoid it. This site was full of nothing but pimps, prostitutes, and drug addicts looking to get money for their next fix. Read about it here.
Erotic Monkey was also recently shut down and users faced some big legal issues because of their involvement in purchasing prostitutes. Luckily for you, you won’t suffer the same fate as some of the men of the Erotic Monkey who were blasted through the newspapers and left paying hefty fines for indulging themselves in illegal activities.
Escort Babylon is banned in the United States but is still available for the time being in Canada. The ads are all ripped from other prostitution sites, so who knows if they’re even legit or if you’ll even get the girl pictured in the ad. I wouldn’t waste my time on anything shady like Escort Babylon.
Live Escort Reviews
Okay, you need to know that the Live Escort Reviews is a total sham. You think you’re getting escorts on this site, but all it does is lead to other sites, like Chaturbate. I have nothing against Chaturbate or any other cam site, but what I do have a problem with is being misled, which Live Escort Reviews is doing.
One site that is also still up and running is Adult Search. I’m positive it won’t be up much longer, between the escort ads and banner ads, this site has absolutely nothing to offer. I honestly think some of these types of sites are left up strictly for the purpose of busting horny men and I would avoid them all.
Finally, there is Nightshift.co. This site used to be hopping in the escort and prostitution game. Because it was so dangerous, however, it was another site that was also shut down not too long ago.
Using any escort site is highly risky, especially with new laws in effect in the United States. Of course, there are other risks as well, from getting robbed, beat up, a disease, or even just completely taken by women who have no interest in you beyond your money. If you need some attention and a hot date, it is best to avoid any escort site and instead try out your hand on of one of the many NSA, casual adult dating sites that are out there.